Every individual, when broken down
to their finest form, is composed of the same anatomy. Five senses: sight,
hearing, taste, touch and smell. We each contain a heart that beats at
different speeds; some thump and bump rapidly while others hold a slow monotonous
pace. Then there are others that cease all together. But perhaps it only stops
for a short moment in time—due to heartbreak. You aren’t dead but you don’t
feel alive anymore. All you do is exist;
you go through the most difficult motions of life while others proceed to pass
you by. And although we can’t control
anyone’s behavior, we can control how we decide to react. So perhaps we aren’t all composed of the same
anatomy. There are people in the world who are blind, deaf, missing limbs,
special needs, black, white, purple, orange…whatever. The point is, when it
comes to basic appearances it is obvious that we are all different. Yet, we all
have simple emotions. Each of us have those “buttons”, and when pushed they
tend to set us off (whether it make us sad, angry, annoyed or embarrassed), we
all have these triggers.
On St. Patrick’s
Day my family sat out on the patio to enjoy the nice weather and our newly revamped
backyard. There were lights that dimly shown upon the food as we all
indulged. I always figure, we are either
very hungry or the food is very good if the conversation is kept to a minimum. That night it was me doing a lot of talking
and eating, partly because I was extremely hungry and also because I can’t
stand unnecessary silence! When the meal came to an end, we all began to banter
about different things from the past, to what we having going on in the
upcoming week. I grabbed some things that were set upon the patio table and
brought them to the kitchen then came back. It was just my mom, brother and
myself for the moment, and my brother turned to my mom and said, “So when do
you think I can get my drivers license? You know how much I love classic cars.”
He was neither begging or pleading he just seemed to state something that had
been on his mind.
My mom
replied, “Sweetie, you won’t be able to get your drivers license because you
have uncontrolled seizures.”
“Yeah
but I really want it!”
“What
would happen if you were driving and you had a seizure? That would cause a big
accident. Maybe we can talk to dad about getting a classic car to drive you
around in.”
my brother Josh & his girlfriend Diane |
My
older brother was 23, he’ll be 24 in July, yet he has the mental capacity of
about an eight year old. At times it can be very difficult having an older
brother with special needs. I have always wondered how my sister was able to get
along with him with such ease, while him and I do nothing but fight. There are
days where we get along, and I think as I have gotten older I’ve become more
understanding of it all. But somehow it scares me; when my parents, “What’s
going to happen to him when we aren’t there anymore?” My mom has told me I need to be so grateful
for what I have, because I have a brother that will never be able to drive, get
married, live on his own or go to college.
Maybe
he won’t be able to do any of those things, but he’s made so much progress from
what I can remember. He’s making his own
bed now, and being a bit more independent when he gets dressed. Perhaps he can’t
drive, but he is learning to play the guitar which he has loved to do for as
long as I can remember. He sings the blues like he is B.B. King or any famous
Blues singer. And although I don’t know a hell of a lot about bowling, he comes
home saying how well he did.
He isn’t your typical big brother
and I know he never will be. There are days where he annoys me, makes me laugh
and even proud. He’s my family, my “big brother”, and I’ll always love him.
What a great blog. I love the photo of your brother and Diane and the details that make him your brother (his ability to sing the blues; your fighting) are interesting. This blog is both philosophical (looking at the bigger picture of what this all means about us humans) and personal. Nicely done. Kimberly
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